Infertility is a very difficult subject as so few people want to talk about it when they are going though it, once I started saying how we conceived Sammy it is amazing how many people have quietly let me know about their experiences.
So what is infertility?
This is not as easy a question as for many other medical conditions, some years ago it was defined as not conceiving while actively trying (having unprotected sexual intercourse on a regular basis) within in a year, this has since been changed so that there is no definite cut of. Although it is still generally advised to see your doctor if you have not conceived within the first year, and can be worth seeing them sooner if the woman is older.
What causes infertility?
Infertility can be caused by all sorts of different reasons, and can also be unexplained, I could write for pages and pages about this, but there are plenty of sites out there that can do this much better than me.
What are the treatments?
Again this is a very big area as it will depend just what the cause is (assuming it is known) how this will be treated.
Treatments can range from medication, surgical procedures to assisted conception.
We experienced medication (clomid) and assisted conception (ICSI – intra cytoplasmic sperm injection) during our journey.
If you find yourself in the unfortunate position of having to travel this journey there are a few bit of advice that I can offer you, it is your choice whether you take any of them or not.
- find someone other than your partner that can support you, yes it is important to talk to your partner about what you are doing but sometimes it is good to let of steam to someone else. This can be a friend, or sometimes it can be easier to be more anonymous on a forum
- encourage your partner find someone they can talk to.
- research, there are plenty of places out there to find information and you will feel so much more in control if you understand at least some of what you are going through
- find out all your options before making any decisions, this might just be which treatment you are going to have or might include whether you are going to try alternative therapies as well.
- don’t be fobbed of by doctors, if you have questions ask, remember they can forget just how important this is for you.
- don’t assume you have to go to your local hospital for treatment, research and review your options.
I am not saying that there are no other good clinics out there, but we loved the CARE that we received going through our successful treatment and would highly recommend Care in Nottingham