I thought about writing a long, long piece about our fertility journey, but then decided on doing it a bit differently.
So here goes! it’s still a long piece, but you can decide just how much of it you want to read. You may even need to log into the fertility friends website to be able to do it, I’m not certain on that one.
We had been together for quite some years buying a house together in 1999, so as you can imagine it wasn’t long after we were married that we decided that we were going to start a family.
We got married in August 2002 and I came off the pill that Christmas, we discussed when we would like to have a baby, I’m sure we are not the only ones to have done this, it was the sort of discussion that went along the lines of
in an ideal world we would like to have a baby in ….
there’s no way we want a baby in July (my mum and husband already share their birthday in July)
so if we would prefer not to have a baby in …. we need to be careful in ….
well it all seemed so easy and simple.
We knew it would take a short while to get pregnant as I had been on the pill for a long time, so my body had to take some time to get back to normal.
Little did we know that a short while was going to turn into 7 years!
But it didn’t happen, this was fine, I’d been on the pill since I was 18 or 19, I wasn’t put on it as a contraceptive, but as a way to help with my painful periods, which friends had learnt to know when they started each month as they were used to seeing the colour drain from my face and carry me to the sick room at school as I almost passed out month in, month out.
So I assumed it would take my body a while to get back to normal when I stopped it.
6months down the like and I thought my body should be getting back to normal soon.
By 2008 we still didn’t have a baby and finally got up the courage to do something about it.
It began with a passing comment to our GP, charting temperatures, returning to the GP with my useless looking charts, if you are interested in knowing just what went through each step of still trying to conceive naturally look here, this diary follows through from TTC (trying to conceive) naturally
while we waited to hear about funding for IVF (in-vitro fertilisation) we were given clomid to try even though it was highly unlikely to work, this part of the journey can be read about here
due to our circumstances instead of IVF we ended up having ICSI (intra-cytoplasmic sperm injection) our first round of this can be followed here
unfortunately this was unsuccessful, and we decided to go the Care in Nottingham for our next round of treatment.
looking back and reading through this last link I have for you all is just amazing, it covers so much, with so much emotion, from having treatment, to getting pregnant, waiting for the birth, the sadness of death in the family both while waiting to get pregnant and waiting for baby to arrive and ending with the first few days after birth
during everything that I was going through I would not have made it through without the fertilityfriends forum
if you have taken the time to click on any of the links and read them you will probably realise just how emotional a time it can be, this is why I have decided to leave it this way for people to read rather than rewriting it and taking much of the stress and emotion out of it.
It is not that I do not want to talk about it anymore, I am more than happy to talk to anyone who feels I can offer them any help or support as they travel along their journey or even just someone who has questions or wants more information.